How to Ensure Successful Supervised Visitation

How to Ensure Successful Supervised Visitation

Here are 10 top tips to make sure visitation continues and you retain a positive relationship with your child.

  1. Do not comment on the legal proceedings surrounding your supervised visitation order. If your child asks why the monitor is present, say, “That person is here to make sure we have a great time” or something similar.
  2. Keep your language clean and positive. Some monitors will regard even the casual use of vulgar and profane language as negative and include your use of it in their reports.
  3. Always make your scheduled visits and arrive on time. If you must cancel, notify the monitor as soon in advance as possible. An unexplained absence hurts your chances of having the supervision order rescinded. It can also send negative messages to your child about your commitment.
  4. Bring other family members whenever possible after obtaining permission from the monitor. If you cannot bring others, bring pictures and cards from grandparents, and other relatives.
  5. Ask the monitor if you can meet at a restaurant, park or another venue. Have the child help you choose a location.
  6. Show up for all court-ordered drug and alcohol tests. Not complying or having a positive result can affect your chances of having the supervision order lifted.
  7. If the court orders a home study, prepare for it. Put alcohol bottles and prescription drug containers in out-of-reach cupboards. Make sure the house is clean and picked up. You don’t need to redecorate. Just make sure that your home is safe and appropriate for a child.
  8. Pay your child support. If the supervised visitation is straining your finances, try to get a modification of your child support order.
  9. Do not ask the child about the other parent. Keep the conversation focused on the child—school, friends, activities, TV and anything else of interest.
  10. Plan for the time with your child. Have a mental list of conversation topics, things to do and games to play. Showing up in this way will make a great impression on the monitor.

Supervised visitation is not easy. But the alternative—having no access to your child—is even worse. It is worth it to make the best of the situation and hope for a change based on successful visits.

Record conversations with attorneys, judges, forensic evaluators, psychologists, and other appointees of the family court

To expose misconduct in family courts, we encourage members to record conversations with attorneys, judges, forensic evaluators, psychologists, and other appointees of the family court. Apps downloadable on your phone like Voice Recorder are good for this. We also remind you of the actual laws in place, which differ from state to state, as shown here. 

Texas is a one-party state meaning that only one party (you) must consent to the recording of conversations.  


Child and Family Visitation Best Practice Guide

Visitation is essential for a child’s well-being The primary purpose of visitation is to maintain the parent-child attachment, reduce a child’s sense of abandonment, and preserve their sense of belonging as part of a family and community. A child needs to see and have regular contact with their parent(s) and siblings, as these relationships are the foundation of child development.

Visitation is fundamental to permanency

Visitation facilitates permanency planning, promotes timely reunification, and helps in the decision-making process to establish alternative permanency plans. Visitation maintains and supports the parent-child relationship necessary for successful reunification.

Visitation is vital to a child maintaining family relationships and cultural connections

Maintaining family connections has life-long significance for a child. Regular visitation maintains their relationships with siblings and others who have a significant role in a child’s life. When a child loses family connections, they also lose family history, medical history and cultural information. Visitation is considered the heart of reunification, but even when reunification is not likely, parents, siblings and extended family continue to be important in a child’s life.


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This guide from the State Bar of Texas Appellate Section’s Pro Bono Committee (“Committee”) is designed to provide a simplified guide to the Texas Rules of Appellate Procedure that apply in civil appeals to the Supreme Court of Texas (“Supreme Court” or “Court”). We have prepared this guide to help laypersons and attorneys with little or no appellate experience. But it is not intended to replace the Texas Rules of Appellate Procedure and should not be cited as legal authority. Litigants are required to comply with the rules and the case law. Litigants should consult the Supreme Court’s website, which includes links to information about filing requirements and fees, and also answers to frequently asked questions, at

This guide reflects the rules and case law as they exist in October 2007. The rules and case law are always subject to change and should be consulted for changes. This guide is available in an alternative format, upon request.

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